Guys Girl

 

When you are a girl whose friends are mostly male, then you have a drama-free life. Male friends are great and real. Once a girl has experienced the good side of male friends, it's very hard for her to go back. 

Choices have consequences, and every girl with male friends knows that at some point she will not be as close to her friends as before. These relations always have a timeline. As time go by, the distance between her and the male friends will grow. Here her friends have started dating other girls who are obviously not comfortable with their men being BFFs with another lady. When the guys have established relationships, our girl will hang out with them a handful of times before she stops hanging out with them entirely. 

The unwritten rule about having male BFFs is that in the hindsight, it's hard to bring yourself to date them. Of course, you love your friend and will do anything for them, but dating them is where the line is drawn. You cannot risk dating your friend. The stakes are too high. There is always a chance that relationships will not work. People break up all the time and never speak again if the relationship ended badly. This is the reason why friends don't date. You will date your friend, break up and lose him both as your lover and BFF. This is the pessimistic view, and even if I was to outline an optimistic view of the matter, after breaking up your friendship, even if you decide to maintain it, will never be the same again.

A girl who is friends with many males finds it hard to find love. Other guys find it difficult to approach a lady who is always surrounded by other males. Many people will interpret her relationship with her friends differently and negatively, so the dating scene will be an extreme sport for her. 

In conclusion, does a girl need to change her friends to experience some semblance of normal? Maybe she does, and she might find some happiness in life. Or maybe she will find her one great guy friend who will be her ride or die. Or she will keep evolving and gathering new guy friends in every stage of her life, and experience new adventures as she goes along. 

Nothing is set on stone as it pertains to friendships and love. All is fair. 

By Orpah.